Soak the shrimp in milk for about 30 minutes to remove any fishy odor or flavor. Drain and rinse well.
In a large pot heat some oil. Add the sliced cabbage and stir fry on medium heat for 5 minutes. Using some tongs, toss and stir the cabbage to distribute the heat.
Season with seasoned salt and pepper and toss again.
Cover and turn the heat to low. Allow to simmer while preparing the rest of the meal.
Make the sauce by combining soy sauce, oyster sauce, wine, brown sugar, red pepper flakes, salt, pepper, garlic, hoisin sauce, and ginger paste in a bowl. Mix well.
Grill the shrimp on an indoor or outdoor grill. Remove and set aside when the shrimp are cooked.
In a wok, heat the oil.
Stir fry the green onion, bell pepper and red onion. Add the sauce and bring to a boil.
Add the shrimp and the sesame oil and stir.
In a bowl, combine the broth and cornstarch. Add to the wok and stir until thickened.
Serve on top of the cooked cabbage.